Honor in Marriage

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Honor in marriage can be summed up by one particular scripture, “Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another…” (Romans 12:10). Why this scripture when there are so many other good references?  Because even as my husband and I celebrate 21 years of marriage in just a few days, its truly in honoring and preferring each other on a daily basis that has made our marriage a joyous success.  Like every marriage, we have had our ups and downs and ins and outs but GOD… in the midst of the valleys and mountain tops that our quick preference and humble submission to one another has been the key to gaining our victories almost immediately in life circumstances and conflict. 

We are learning our identity as a couple.  “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.  As a husband and wife, we’re supposed to be a representation of Christ and the church through love and respect.  This can only happen when spouses begin to see how God designed us, individually and united. 

[A word to husbands]  Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.  1 Peter 3:6-8 NKJV

[A word to wives]  Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband (that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly.) Ephesians 5:33 AMP

Honor in marriage is carried out by asking the Lord to reveal to us our spouse’s identity. In agreement with God, affirming that truth by placing great value, respect, price, glory and esteem upon our spouse celebrating why we fell in love in the first place.  We honor them by taking into account their gifts, talents and anointing in everyday living by understanding that together decisions are made, the sharing of life responsibilities, caring for one another’s needs and of course making the Lord the center of all that we do to partner through life.  “In marriage, we are equal partners – joint heirs – of the inheritance of grace.” 1

“The only way to walk in true honor is to always honor God first.  Enduring honor is found only in valuing Him above anything or anyone else.  He is the Great King; He is worthy to receive all our respect, not just a portion.” 2

1, 2  True Honor by John Bevere

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